Update: Life In Philly
Cue Thomas Rhett’s song: Life Changes
It’s been a while since I’ve given a life update. I think the last I shared was that I was living in Denver for my job, trying to do as much traveling as possible before moving back to Philly, all while being in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend who was going through pilot training in Mississippi.
So let me bring you guys up to speed on what I’ve been up to lately…
In August, I moved back to Philly and started living with two of my childhood best friends. The three of us have been friends since Kindergarten, but having gone to different high schools and colleges, there was something super nostalgic about being able to live together in Philly as working adults! I also had been living on my own for an entire year in Charlotte and Denver (click here to read all about my perspective on living alone), so I was siked about having friends to live with and figured it’d be the best way to ease back into life at home.
After about a month and half of settling back in Philly, I started to realize how much I missed it while I was away! Despite how much I love traveling and exploring new cities, Philly just gives me all the feels and is really my home where I belong. I couldn’t bear the thought of ever leaving again, and realized how much I love being back with all my friends and family who I missed so much!
This realization started to make me question my relationship with Anthony, especially given the fact that him being in pilot training means that eventually we’d have to travel all over the country (and world!) for the next 10 years until his commitment to the Air Force is over. After a lot of long, hard conversations and a whole lot of tears, we both decided it’d be best to go our separate ways. This was not an easy decision. It was extremely difficult, but we both understood that long distance wasn’t going to be sustainable given the circumstances, and that me moving to be with him would come at far too high a price than I was willing to pay, especially after just getting settled back in Philly.
I realize this is something I wasn’t upfront with you guys about—some of you may have even noticed the sudden drop in talking about him and posting about him on my Instagram page— but I wasn’t sure how to bring up our break up!
Since then I’ve been learning how to be single again, which keep in mind, Anthony and I had dated for 7 years, so this has been no easy task. Our plans were to move in together, get engaged, married, have babies, we even had our children's names picked out!—but all that came to a screeching halt in October. It’s been tough resetting my expectations about where I thought I’d be at 25, but as everyone keeps saying, “You’re so young!” Which is true, I am so young, it’s just hard to pivot when you were headed in a certain direction for so long.
At first it was extremely tough, but with the help of my weighted blanked lol (Click here for a review on my weighted blanket!) and my amazing friends and family, I’m slowly learning how to embrace the carefreeness of being single and have started to appreciate the joys of living my best Carrie Bradshaw life!
Despite the fact that this past (almost) year of living with my friends has been so much fun, and I honestly don’t know how I would have settled back home without them, I’ve decided that my next big step is to go solo! At the end of July I’ll be living on my own again! I’m super excited for this next big change, and as most of you know (or if you read my post!) I loved living on my own before, so stay tuned for more life updates and apartment makeovers!
I look back on the past 10 months and I am in awe of the amount of changes I have gone through in such a short period of time! It has been a roller coaster, but I’ve learned so much about myself and about life in general, so I can honestly say that at the end of the day I am grateful for this ride and for all that it’s taught me.
Thanks for reading and stay tuned for more life updates...